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Why do Video Games Make You Angry?

Why do Video Games Make You Angry?

Why do Video Games Make You Angry?

Gamer rage is not a new phenomenon. A gamer angrily throwing down their controller after losing is a classic image that comes to mind. Since the gaming community has become quite toxic over the last few years, it begs the question: why do video games make people angry?

Here are a few reasons video games make you angry:

  • Suppressed emotions that get vented during games
  • Alexithymia (a prevalent issue with gamers)
  • Frustration from problems in real life 
  • Overall toxicity in the gaming community
  • Conflict of interest with other gamers in the game

Let’s look at each of these in more detail, as these reasons can apply to most gamers. At the end of the article, we also discuss solutions to video games making you angry.

 

Video Makes Make You Angry By Suppressing Emotions

One of the main reasons that video games can make you angry is that video games suppress emotions. That may sound paradoxical, and you might ask, “if video games suppress my emotions, then shouldn’t anger be suppressed as well?” That is a valid question, so let’s try to answer that in this section.

The amygdala is the part of our brain that governs our feeling of negative emotion. When we experience fear, anger, pain, frustration, or sadness, our amygdala lights up. However, fMRI studies have shown that if we start playing a video game when we experience these emotions, the amygdala starts to calm down. As a result, our negative emotions get suppressed.

Moreover, constant suppression also prevents the amygdala from making connections to the hippocampus, which is the part of the brain responsible for learning. That prevents gamers from learning lessons, which makes their progress at the game slower. That leads to more frustration, which gets vented out at the game or their teammates.

However, these emotions don’t dissipate. They stay suppressed and swimming under the surface. When we experience an adverse event in a game that causes frustration, those emotions find an outlet. Due to reasons that we will get into in the next section, these suppressed emotions manifest as anger.

 

Video Games can Cause Alexithymia

gamer playingEmotional suppression is a massive problem in the male population. In our culture, boys are taught that anger is the only acceptable emotion for them to express. As a result, many men grow up without having the emotional vocabulary to express their feelings.

Video games can make this issue worse. As a result of emotional suppression, people start to lose the ability to know their emotions. This condition is called Alexithymia — the inability to determine your inner emotional state. Most gamers are alexithymic.

If you find yourself watching a sad movie, and everyone except you is crying at a tragic scene, that does not mean that you control your emotions. It could mean that you have suppressed your emotions to such an extent that you have a hard time feeling the sadness. However, that does not mean that your emotions no longer control you. It just means that when they impact your behavior, it is harder for you to be aware of it.

 

Frustration from Issues in Real Life Manifests as Anger in Video Games

Why do Video Games Make You Angry?

Often, people start to play video games to escape their problems in real life. Some kids begin to play video games because they get bullied at school. Others begin to play games because they need to escape their professional or academic failures.

When a gamer who plays games to escape their real-life problems encounters a situation in the game where they start to lose, the feeling of failure that they have been trying to escape starts to bubble up again. They begin to become frustrated and annoyed that even video games are failing to help them.

That activates their ego. The ego is a protective mechanism that arises to protect us from emotional pain. When a gamer starts to feel like they are a failure while playing competitive games such as Dota 2 or League of Legends, their ego gets activated. It creates a narrative that they are not the failure, and its not their fault that they are losing at the game. The gamer’s ego tells them that it is their teammates’ fault that they are losing. Video games don’t have to be violent to trigger gaming rage.

Their brain then does some hyper-selective reasoning to find evidence to back up their narrative. The gamer proceeds to let off some steam by shouting at their teammates in the game. In this way, their ego protects them from emotional pain and redirects their emotions towards other players. The gamer might think that video games make them angry, but it is their ego stepping in as a defense mechanism.

 

Different Goals create a Conflict of Interest in the Video Games

Why do Video Games Make You Angry?

One of the biggest reasons that gamers tend to get angry towards each other in video games is a conflict of interest. Different players approach video games in different ways. One gamer might want to play a game for fun, while another gamer’s goal would be to win and ascend in rankings. One player might be more casual while the other might be more competitive.

When these two kinds of players land up on the same team, there is a clash of objectives. While winning can be fun, if you get too engaged in achieving the goal of winning, then you might see the casual player as a problem, as they are not trying hard enough to win the game. That can make you angry because its frustrating to meet someone who isn’t playing the game with the same goals.

If you are the casual player and you don’t mind losing, the competitive player might get angry at you because you are actively impeding their progress in the game. If you respond angrily, then that results in a back and forth where two players become tilted and perpetuate toxicity.

 

Prevalent Toxicity in the Gaming Community

A combination of all of these reasons creates toxic environments in the video game community. When gamers cannot escape their issues by playing games and vent out their frustration in the form of anger, it exacerbates toxic environments. 

People raging at each other in games is a common sight. When a new player enters these communities, they quickly learn that they have to be equally toxic to survive. As a result, toxicity and rude behavior get normalized. 

Many gamers think that their speech does not cause any real harm. They believe that “its just words.” Everyone reinforces everyone else’s toxic behaviors, which makes the environment worse, especially for new players.

Click here to check out our article on toxicity in the gaming community.

 

How do I Stop Getting Angry at Video Games?

Gamer rage and toxicity is both an individual as well as a systemic problem. Therefore, we need to tackle this issue from both angles. Here is how you can understand why video games make you angry and process that anger.

Find Out Why You Play Video Games

Is it to cope with problems in real life? What do you think would happen if you stopped playing them? Answering these questions will give you an insight into your thought processes.

gamer playing MOBA

Talk About Your Emotions

Talk about your emotions with others and develop an emotional vocabulary. This step is crucial for long-term mental health. If you were to ask an alexithymic gamer what they feel when something wrong happens to them, they would probably answer with “I feel bad.” However, feeling bad is not an emotion. It is a blanket word that can mean any feeling ranging from “sadness, frustration, guilt, shame, regret, etc.” A simple exercise you can do is try to use an emotional wheel to figure out which emotion you are feeling at particular moments.

Process Your Emotions

Process your emotions. Unprocessed emotions are one of the biggest reasons for emotional outbursts. When you don’t let out your feelings in healthy ways, they get suppressed and leak out when your guard is down. It would help to get a mental health evaluation and see if you need mental health treatment. There is no shame in asking for help.

Are You Addicted to Video Games?

Try to figure out if you are addicted to video games. See if you have any signs or symptoms of video game addiction. Gaming addiction can be paralyzing and prevent you from moving forward without you even realizing why. The frustration from being stuck can often present itself in the form of anger.

Counter Toxic Culture in Gaming

Counter toxicity in video games. Start with yourself — notice the feeling of anger when it bubbles up, and observe it. As you gain control of your anger, try to understand why other people in video games are angry. Everyone has different reasons for being toxic in video games, even if there is a common theme. Moreover, it is not about fake positivity. It is about understanding the cause of frustration and disarming your ego while attempting to understand your teammates.

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