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Coaching can help you make real change
and build the life you want.
Coaching can help you make real change
and build the life you want.
What is a
Puer Aeternus?
What is a Puer Aeternus?
Puer Aeternus, a Latin term translating to “eternal boy,” refers to a man who seems stuck in their adolescent phase. They have big dreams, and are capable of great things. But, they often get in their own way, failing to fully rise to their potential and achieve a meaningful life. Above all, they fear the loss of potential, worried of making the wrong choice and wasting their time. However, in doing so, they paradoxically waste more time, and struggle to make real progress.
Puer Aeternus, a Latin term translating to “eternal boy,” refers to a man who seems stuck in their adolescent phase. They have big dreams, and are capable of great things. But, they often get in their own way, failing to fully rise to their potential and achieve a meaningful life. Above all, they fear the loss of potential, worried of making the wrong choice and wasting their time. However, in doing so, they paradoxically waste more time, and struggle to make real progress.
The sleepy, undisciplined, long-legged youth who merely hands around, his mind wandering indiscriminately, so that sometimes one feels inclined to pour a bucket of cold water over his head.
— Marie-Louise von Franz
The Problem of the Puer Aeternus
What is a Puer Aeternus?
Puer Aeternus, a Latin term translating to “eternal boy,” refers to a man who seems stuck in their adolescent phase. They have big dreams, and are capable of great things. But, they often get in their own way, failing to fully rise to their potential and achieve a meaningful life. Above all, they fear the loss of potential, worried of making the wrong choice and wasting their time. However, in doing so, they paradoxically waste more time, and struggle to make real progress.
The sleepy, undisciplined, long-legged youth who merely hands around, his mind wandering indiscriminately, so that sometimes one feels inclined to pour a bucket of cold water over his head.
— Marie-Louise von Franz
The Problem of the Puer Aeternus
A Failure to Constellate
Puer Aeterni are not lazy. They can perform incredible feats and work intensely, but once they hit an obstacle that forces them to do the drab, dreary work required for great achievements (e.g. debugging code to create a game) they'll give up until the next project comes along that sparks their flame, and repeat the cycle. In their wake lie countless unfinished projects that fail to constellate into a greater whole.
Puer Aeterni are not lazy. They can perform incredible feats and work intensely, but once they hit an obstacle that forces them to do the drab, dreary work required for great achievements (e.g. debugging code to create a game) they'll give up until the next project comes along that sparks their flame, and repeat the cycle. In their wake lie countless unfinished projects that fail to constellate into a greater whole.
"In Symbols of Transformation, Jung spoke of one cure—work—and having said that he hesitated for just a minute and thought, ‘Is this really as simple as all that? Is that just the one cure? Can I put it that way?’ But work is the one disagreeable word which no puer aeternus likes to hear, and Jung came to the conclusion that it was the right answer."
— Marie-Louise von Franz
The Problem of the Puer Aeternus
A Failure to Constellate
Puer Aeterni are not lazy. They can perform incredible feats and work intensely, but once they hit an obstacle that forces them to do the drab, dreary work required for great achievements (e.g. debugging code to create a game) they'll give up until the next project comes along that sparks their flame, and repeat the cycle. In their wake lie countless unfinished projects that fail to constellate into a greater whole.
"In Symbols of Transformation, Jung spoke of one cure—work—and having said that he hesitated for just a minute and thought, ‘Is this really as simple as all that? Is that just the one cure? Can I put it that way?’ But work is the one disagreeable word which no puer aeternus likes to hear, and Jung came to the conclusion that it was the right answer."
— Marie-Louise von Franz
The Problem of the Puer Aeternus
The Puer Aeternus Cycle
The Puer Aeternus Cycle
Common Challenges
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
Common Challenges
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
If I start something, I want to be sure that it will turn out well.
Wanting to choose “the right thing” is a core part of the Puer Aeternus’s struggle. But clinging to endless possibility hinders real progress. The truth is: there will always be obstacles. The key is in learning to overcome them. There is no perfect path, there is only your path.
To move past this paralysis of action, you’ll need to:
Build tolerance for uncertainty and imperfection
Create structure that supports action (not just willpower)
Learn to allow room for mistakes, and find healthy ways to move past them.
This fear often stems from perfectionism or lack of confidence. For more support, check out our Confidence Resource Pack.
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
What if I choose the wrong college major, career, or project to focus on and just waste my time?
Not knowing what to do is scary, but you also waste time by not choosing. To escape the Puer Aeternus Trap, you have to sacrifice the potentials that keep you paralyzed.
Letting go of perfection, trying things before you feel ready, and learning through doing are key. If you need help figuring out what fits, coaching can help you explore, commit, and adapt without getting stuck in fear.
HG Coaches can help you:
create a plan to try new things;
find what you like, and;
commit to a path so you can start making real progress.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
If my circumstances were better, I’d achieve so much more.
It’s tempting to believe that with the right circumstances, you’d finally live up to your potential. But waiting for the perfect circumstances can delay action forever. All paths come with constraints. Life is ultimately about having the discipline and motivation to act, even when the circumstances aren’t perfect.
To move forward, try:
focusing on what’s within your control,
taking small steps in the face of real limitations, and
redefining success on your own terms.
HG Coaching can help you stay grounded and make progress, even when your situation isn’t ideal.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
I was gifted, top of my class, got good grades, but now I do nothing but daydream.
When success comes easy early in life, it can be hard to develop the discipline needed to succeed later in life. Daydreaming feels safe, even meaningful. However, it ultimately keeps you from confronting real limits and using effort towards improving your circumstance.
To move forward, you’ll need to rebuild your drive from within, not just chasing achievement, but creating purpose.
To learn more about purpose, you can explore our FREE Life Purpose Primer.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
I have big dreams, but can’t stick to one project and follow through.
You’re full of potential, but without direction and commitment, potential can become a trap. Chasing the new, exciting project may feel productive, but in reality it leads to a trail of unfinished work and growing frustration.
To solve this, you need to narrow your focus and learn to tolerate the boredom that will inevitably arise. Train your mind to follow through, even after the initial excitement of a new project fades.
If you need help doing this, HG Coaching can provide the support and accountability to actually follow through.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
I’m afraid of trying in real life. I’m drawn to video games because I can’t fail there.
In video games, you always get another chance. You can always start over, and eventually you can win. It’s important to understand that, though you can’t respawn IRL, life is pretty similar. You can always choose a better path for yourself, and take action towards real progress. Real life often feels heavier, because real effort means real risks. But if you stay in safety mode your entire life, it prevents you from growing.
To change this, you’ll need to build tolerance for failure, create safe challenges, and start seeing real-life effort as meaningful—even if it’s not as predictable as a game.
Coaching can help you translate the strengths you use in games, like resilience and strategy, to your goals.
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Tools to Help You Get Started
Reframing Goals to Actions
We're conditioned to focus on outcomes—like grades, salaries, degrees, and topics. However, this outcome orientation can actually destroy our motivation.
The Nature of Self
Much of our suffering or paralysis in life comes from a belief of who we are. By discovering the true nature of ourself, we can free ourselves of negative self thoughts.
Resistance - Emotions
We logically know we need to do certain things, but often times feel unmotivated to do them. It turns out that the reason these solutions don't work isn't because we lack motivation, but rather that we're motivated in the opposite direction by our emotions.
Reframing Goals to Actions
We're conditioned to focus on outcomes—like grades, salaries, degrees, and topics. However, this outcome orientation can actually destroy our motivation.
We're conditioned to focus on outcomes—like grades, salaries, degrees, and topics. However, this outcome orientation can actually destroy our motivation.
The Nature of Self
Much of our suffering or paralysis in life comes from a belief of who we are. By discovering the true nature of ourself, we can free ourselves of negative self thoughts.
Much of our suffering or paralysis in life comes from a belief of who we are. By discovering the true nature of ourself, we can free ourselves of negative self thoughts.
Resistance - Emotions
We logically know we need to do certain things, but often times feel unmotivated to do them. It turns out that the reason these solutions don't work isn't because we lack motivation, but rather that we're motivated in the opposite direction by our emotions.
We logically know we need to do certain things, but often times feel unmotivated to do them. It turns out that the reason these solutions don't work isn't because we lack motivation, but rather that we're motivated in the opposite direction by our emotions.
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Reframing Goals to Actions
We're conditioned to focus on outcomes—like grades, salaries, degrees, and topics. However, this outcome orientation can actually destroy our motivation.
The Nature of Self
Much of our suffering or paralysis in life comes from a belief of who we are. By discovering the true nature of ourself, we can free ourselves of negative self thoughts.
Resistance - Emotions
We logically know we need to do certain things, but often times feel unmotivated to do them. It turns out that the reason these solutions don't work isn't because we lack motivation, but rather that we're motivated in the opposite direction by our emotions.
Reframing Goals to Actions
We're conditioned to focus on outcomes—like grades, salaries, degrees, and topics. However, this outcome orientation can actually destroy our motivation.
The Nature of Self
Much of our suffering or paralysis in life comes from a belief of who we are. By discovering the true nature of ourself, we can free ourselves of negative self thoughts.
Resistance - Emotions
We logically know we need to do certain things, but often times feel unmotivated to do them. It turns out that the reason these solutions don't work isn't because we lack motivation, but rather that we're motivated in the opposite direction by our emotions.
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Healthy Gamer is developed by world-class addictions expert Dr. Alok Kanojia.
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Get the latest in mental health research, industry updates, and more
Healthy Gamer is developed by world-class addictions expert Dr. Alok Kanojia.